BABY C (from November 2011)
Today I found out I’m pregnant.
In March 2010, I was told by at least six well-regarded fertility specialists that I would never have a biological child. One said I had a .5 percent chance of conceiving by any method, including IVF. They rest were just as dire.
So today, in November 2011, as I announce that I’m pregnant, you might wonder… Is it hers?
Back in March 2010, I was indeed handed paperwork to begin the process of finding an egg donor.
And yes, the baby is mine.
So you say, ‘Wow, it’s been 20 months, and you did it, you got pregnant! Were you trying for 20 months straight? What did you have to do: IVF, drugs, potions, acupuncture, prayer, voodoo?’
And I say, ’No… I’ve hardly tried at all in those 20 months!’
I got pregnant having had sex once this cycle, with a condom on the whole time. And Seth pulled out.
I called our family doctor today, frantic, because I had not been intending to get pregnant at all. In fact, it seemed so unlikely that I was worried a tumor might be raising my HcG level, causing a false positive.
“Can you get pregnant on one try, using a condom correctly, and pulling out?” I asked.
He said, “In theory no, in practice, yes.” Huh?!
So you ask, ‘Why weren’t you trying to get pregnant?? Had you given up hope after 20 months?’
Not at all.
See, I left out a critical detail of my story….
I have ten month old twins.
Twins One Day Old
That’s right, I didn’t get pregnant 20 months after being told I was completely infertile. I got pregnant 2 months later!
The doc who gave me the .5 perfect chance suggested we do an intrauterine insemination (basically a fancy turkey baster) ”for closure” before moving on to the egg donor option.
We did, and against the doc’s recommendation, we did it without fertility meds. I figured I should try something while I continued to try to find a doc who believed I could get pregnant.
We got pregnant with twins on the first try. I had been told my eggs were “so old” and of such bad quality that if I did manage to get pregnant, I would miscarry or have a child with a genetic disorder.
How can one’s eggs be older than one’s body, I wondered?
Funny thing is my husband was told he was infertile too. Not utterly and completely, like me, but pretty bad. Essentially zero percent of his sperm were shaped correctly, and thus none would be capable of penetrating an egg.
My precious babies were born Jan. 6, 2011. They are hearty and healthy and
perfect in every way.
But ok, perhaps those slow, misshapen sperm needed a boost reaching
my decrepit eggs, and the IUI provided that. But considering the fact that TWO were fertilized, I had to wonder if the docs were wrong.
AND NOW, I am sitting here holding two pregnancy tests, and functionally didn’t even have sex this month, and I have to wonder why well-respected doctors are getting it so wrong, telling women who can conceive that they can’t. How many other women out there with “high FSH,” or other problems, for that matter, have been told this?
There will be more to come on infertility, but for now, let me end by saying, if I can get pregnant twice in 20 months with a “.5 percent chance”, either I’m the messiah, or we women need to really, seriously question our docs – ALWAYS!
Around 30 Weeks Pregnant with Twins
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