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In my feminist, sex-positive, queer-positive travels, I constantly hear folks complaining about labels. Let’s just stop with all these labels. If we could just get away from labels. It’s the labels that are the problem. When I hear this, I often wonder how any of the progress that’s been made to expand notions of gender identity beyond the binary and make space for non-heteronormative and queer forms of identity could have been made without labels. How could we fight for gay marriage without the word “gay?” How could we raise awareness that not everyone fits neatly into male/female categories without labels like transgender, intersex, and genderqueer? I can understand the frustration with labels when it feels like they narrow who we can be and pigeon-hole us into existing categories, like male and female, for example. But ironically, I believe the way to expand notions of identity and free ourselves from those limits is also through more labels.
I recently heard the phrase “Gender, Sexual, and Relationship Minorities” for the first time. As someone who focuses my career in the mental health field on those very groups, I was so pleased to finally have found a quick and dirty label not only for the folks I work with but for myself, as a queer-identified pansexual. However, after my initial excitement, I started to feel a bit sad. Would this mean I would have to stop using the acronym I coined on my blog and have been using for over a year… LGBTQIAPK?